“So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath; for the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God.” James 1:19-20
This is an important verse for us to learn. Some people do not really listen when others are talking and get mad about something that they heard wrong. James tells us to listen quickly, but then answer slowly. We need to think about what the person has said. We should also be very slow to anger.
Some people have a quick temper. This type of person gets mad about things that are not important. They will throw temper tantrums if they do not get their way or pout if someone does not do what they want to do. We must strive to be people who do not get mad easily.
Not all anger is bad. Psalm 4:4 tells us to “be angry, and do not sin.” Even God is angry when people disobey Him. However, most of the time when we get angry it is about the wrong things. Anytime that we get angry and say mean or hurtful things to others it is wrong. We must learn to control our anger since ungodly wrath will not make us righteous and will hurt our influence for good.
How do we control our tempers? Breathe deeply or count to ten slowly and give yourself time to calm down. Remember that you will not think clearly if you are angry. Listen carefully and speak slowly. Pray to God to help you control your temper. Your example is important.