"Please" and "Thank You": It's Not Just For Kindergarten Anymore

One of the first skills we learn in school is speaking to one another with common courtesy (politeness and good manners). We learn to say “please” and “thank you.” If we don’t use proper manners, our requests might even be denied.

Unfortunately, some people seem to forget that these are lifelong skills. Manners demonstrate gratitude in both our personal and professional lives.

A person who does not show manners can easily seem ungrateful. This lack of courtesy can damage relationships between husbands and wives, parents and children, or coworkers in the workplace.

The Mind of Christ

The Bible encourages us to develop a respectful attitude toward others:

“Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem [value or respect highly] others better than himself.” — Philippians 2:1-5

If we do something kind for someone, we appreciate hearing their thanks. Following the Golden Rule that Jesus taught in Luke 6:31, we should always express our gratitude to others:

“And just as you want men to do to you, you also do to them likewise.”

Why Saying “Thank You” Matters

I am sometimes surprised when someone does a kind act for a young person, and it goes completely unacknowledged. It is even more disappointing when someone makes a sacrifice—like spending money, changing plans, or going out of their way—and receives no simple “thank you.”

Be aware of what others do for you and express your gratitude clearly. Don’t just mumble it. Since they went out of their way to help you, speak up and thank them!

Opportunities to Express Gratitude

Here are common situations where you should show appreciation:

• When someone gives you a ride home or to an event.
• When someone buys your food or pays your admission to an event.
• When someone invites you to join in an activity.
• When someone hosts a Bible class or youth event in their home (be sure to thank the host personally before you leave).
• When someone organizes a gathering or activity for young people.
• When someone compliments you on a job well done.
• When someone checks on you with a phone call or text when you are sick.
• When someone takes time out of their day to talk to or help you.
• When someone gives you a gift or money.
• When someone teaches you a new, important skill.
• When someone offers you a job or unique opportunity.

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Can you think of other opportunities to show gratitude that young people might overlook? Leave your ideas in the comments!