Confused Christian Communication

Noise fills the air, but nothing makes sense. Sometimes we focus so much on our own message that we completely tune out others. At other times, we twist their words to fit what we expect them to mean. Often, we simply wait for them to stop talking so we can keep speaking.

Just because two people are talking together, it doesn’t mean they are sharing the same conversation.

Have you ever been in an argument where the other person insisted that you meant something you did not say? They likely twisted your words to fit a preconception (an opinion formed beforehand). It is frustrating to talk to someone who isn’t really listening.

Spiritual conversations often become confusing for this exact reason. Two people talk, but they fail to communicate. Sometimes they assign different meanings to the same words. Other times, they ignore what is being said because it does not fit their personal view of scripture.

Misunderstandings in the Ministry of Jesus

This happened often during the earthly ministry of Jesus. Consider these conversations from the Gospel of John:

• John 3: Jesus discusses spiritual rebirth, but Nicodemus (a Jewish leader) can only think of the physical impossibility of being born again. Over time, Nicodemus grows to understand Jesus’ words.

• John 4: Jesus offers spiritual water, but the Samaritan woman at the well is focused purely on her physical thirst. Eventually, their conversation aligns as she understands His message.

• John 6: Jesus teaches a large crowd about the bread of life (spiritual nourishment). However, the crowd is only focused on getting physical bread for their stomachs. In the end, many get frustrated and walk away.

• The Disciples: The apostles were frequently confused by Jesus’ teachings. They often focused on earthly power and physical kingdoms instead of spiritual realities. Yet, through patience, they eventually understood.

• The Gospel of John: The entire book serves as a conversation. It guides readers from seeing Jesus as just a good teacher to recognizing Him as the Son of God, the true light, and the source of eternal life.

Knowing this about human nature, we should not be surprised when our own conversations about faith get confusing. This reality should encourage us to be humble, patient, and gentle with others. If the people talking directly with Jesus struggled to grasp spiritual concepts, we will likely face similar challenges.

Evangelism (Sharing the Gospel)

We must not lose patience when sharing the gospel (the good news of salvation) with someone who has no background with the Bible or Jesus. Some people see the truth immediately, like a bright light shining in the dark.

Others have minds clouded by false teachings and worldly ideas. They must unlearn these errors before they can accept the truth.

2 Corinthians 4:1-6 reminds us that the gospel can be veiled (hidden) to those who are lost because of the deceptive work of Satan.

Be patient and help others clear away the rubble of confusion to uncover the truth.

Relationships with Other Christians

1 Corinthians 2:14-16 explains that non-Christians cannot understand the spiritual things of God. To them, spiritual truths seem foolish.

Similarly, new Christians who are still immature (undeveloped) in their faith will not immediately understand deep spiritual principles. We must support them patiently as they grow. (Ephesians 1:15-18)

When a local church includes both spiritually minded members and worldly minded members, confusion and division will follow. (1 Corinthians 3:1-4).

Every Christian must strive to grow in knowledge and maturity. This growth helps us match the fullness of Christ, prevent conflicts, and respond lovingly to those who act out of ignorance or pride. (Ephesians 4:12-14)

Personal Growth

Finally, we must practice patience with ourselves. As we learn more about God, we will sometimes struggle with our own lack of understanding.

Trust God and keep studying His Word. You will not learn everything overnight. Growth is a lifelong journey that brings joy as we learn to walk in God’s grace.

Spend time reading the Bible daily, even when some passages seem confusing. Like the woman at the well or the disciples, you might miss the point at first. If you stay in the conversation with God, understanding will come.